Stage 1: First Contact (texting / getting acquainted)
Goal: get to know each other and create light interest.
• Messages: short, lively, positive; no more than 2–3 messages per “wave.”
• Topics: light subjects - your day, hobbies, funny moments, shared interests.
• Compliments: one at a time, without exaggeration.
• Space: don’t try to respond to every minute of their day. The brain needs time to adapt to emotions.
Rule: keep emotional tension at the level of “light interest,” without diving into deep life topics.
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Stage 2: First Meeting
Goal: feel the chemistry without overheating.
• Duration: 30–60 minutes; a short walk or coffee.
• Contact: light eye contact, smiles, friendly touch (hand, shoulder).
• Conversation: questions about interests, shared topics, light compliments.
• Don’t overload: don’t tell your entire life story, especially traumatic or complex topics.
Rule: the meeting should leave a pleasant feeling and a desire to meet again, not to “figure everything out right away.”
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Stage 3: Texting After the Meeting
Goal: maintain interest and emotional connection.
• Intensity: 1–3 messages per day.
• Content: small details from your day, humor, short compliments.
• Reciprocity: both ask questions, both keep the conversation going.
• Don’t be pushy: if they don’t reply right away, don’t send a second message.
Rule: texting should add enjoyment, not create pressure.
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Stage 4: Further Meetings
Goal: build trust and closeness.
• Gradually longer: first 30–60 minutes → 1–2 hours → shared activities.
• Touch: light, gradual, without rushing.
• Deeper topics: personal experiences, plans, family — revealed step by step.
Rule: one or two deeper topics per meeting is enough; don’t overload emotionally.
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Stage 5: Mutual Initiative
Goal: both partners contribute to developing the relationship.
• Invitations: take turns initiating plans.
• Responsibility: both show effort but don’t overwhelm each other.
• Space: keep time for yourself, friends, and hobbies.
Rule: healthy relationships grow when both people “hold a bit of space” and emotions don’t constantly run high.
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Key Principles to Avoid Burnout:
1. Gradual progression - from short contact to deeper connection.
2. Space - both need time for themselves.
3. Emotional balance - excitement and attraction without overload.
4. Reciprocity - mutual interest; one person shouldn’t carry everything.
5. Body language and small signals - light touch, eye contact, and smiles help emotions flow naturally.
